Things I have said to my boys this week!

 

 

Everybody has had those moments of "did I just say that?" It happens to me quite frequently so I decided to make a quick list of things that have actually come out of my mouth to my kiddos with in the last few days. Here we go.....

*Get your hand out of your butt!

 

*Yes son, you can paint your nails...just don't get it on the new rug!!

 

*Get off that rug w/ that pizza....yes, you can eat it on the couch (turns out once there is a newer furnishing the rule for the last new item is out the window. Thanks to the new rug the old "no eating on the couch" rule ...gone.)

 

*No, you CAN NOT fly even with that creature power disc!

 

*I will take you to chuck-e-cheese if you DO NOT do the fundraiser!!

 

*I will go on line and find you the lame fundraiser prize pen filled with bubble gum if you DO NOT do the fundraiser

 

*Why is there toothpaste in your hair?

 

*Why is there toothpaste on the mirror?

 

*Why is there toothpaste on your brother.

 

*Don't eat the book!"

 

*Don't spit on your brother!"

 

*Don't walk on your brother!"

 

*That is my laundry hamper not a fort!

 

*This is my bed, not a trampoline!

 

*No, I am going to the GROCERY store NOT to buy you a skylander guy.

 

*No, the $3 you have will not buy a skylander.

 

*Yes, you can use my glue gun and markers to make a train out of old boxes. 

 

*STOP pulling your baby brother in your homemade rickety train..

 

*NOOOOOOO!!! DON'T LET GO!!! THE BABY CAN'T WALK  YET!!!

 

*No, The baby can't eat your popcorn

 

*Get your toes out of the baby's mouth

 

*Why is the WHOLE roll of toilet paper in the toilet?

 

*No, you can't ride your bike down the steep hill, through the trees, in the forest!

 

*Sit on your hands!

 

*NO, I don't think  if you leave the flower, you made out of construction paper, outside that the bees will come pollinate it.

 

*We pee in the bathroom not on the trees...I mean the house is RIGHT THERE!

 

*You can not wear your Ben 10 pajamas to school!

 

*Do you have underwear on?

 

*Put some on!! YES!!! Even though you are already dressed!!

 

*NO MORE TALKING TIL YOU ARE COMPLETELY DRESSED! 

 

*NO MORE TALKING TIL YOU HAVE FINISHED EATING!

 

*NO MORE TALKING TIL YOU CAN SPEAK NICELY TO EACH OTHER!

 

*I don't really believe that you are sick but "just pretending to not be sick." In fact you running around like a mad man actually confirms my theory that you are  TOTALLY FINE!

 

*You are not staying home tomorrow unless you have a fever along with your  throwing up! ya know since you can gag yourself on anything! And okay, I'll admit, it is pretty impressive for a 6 yr old.... How very super model of you!

 

*Don't hold the dog by it's neck!!

 

*NO!! Your room is not clean!! Picking up a path of toys from the door to the bed and leaving the rest does not a clean room make!

 

*No, chips are not healthy!

 

*No, ice cream is not healthy!

 

*You can NOT have cookies for breakfast.

 

*Okay fine....eat a bowl of cereal and then you can have a cookie!  

 

*Is that pee or water?

 

*Thank you for my flower.  And why yes I will wear this flower weed in my hair, and probably forget and end up running errands w/ it in my hair....all day....all over town!

 

*Oh yes I do want stickers on my face! And yes I will probably go visit w/ the neighbor I don't know that well who will never tell me it's there!

 

*YOU SERIOUSLY WILL NOT BE ABLE TO FLY IF YOU JUMP OFF DADDY'S TRUCK!! YOU WILL DIE!! DO NOT DO IT!!!

These are a few I could think of on the spot. I'm sure there are many many  more.....maybe there will be a part two. Please comment with your favorite things you've said to your kids! I'd love to hear!!

Fine

Tonight we were out at our fire pit when my first grader informs me that a girl in his class was burned by fire. I asked where it burned her. He said "all over her body!" He has a pretty vivid imagination so I did some fact checking. when I said, "are you sure?" he said he was!  He said he even asked her if she was burnt by fire and she said yes! I asked if you can tell...if there are scars from the burn and he said there are! He then proceeded to described what her skin looked like.  When I realized he was not making it up I said, "oh that breaks my heart!" to which he responded a little mockingly, "why? she's fine!" he was kind of laughing  at me for feeling any sympathy for her at all.

I was thinking about the all the horrible things she'd face in life. Not looking like everybody else. The mean kids at school who would make fun of her scarred skin.  I was aching for the pain she felt from the burn, and the pain her family felt watching her endure that pain. All these adult thoughts and feelings came flooding through my mind. then in an instance my sweet 6 year old set me straight with a simple, "she's fine!"

Von doesn't see any imperfections in her....he just sees his friend. His class mate that has a cool story. She laughs, and plays with her friends, she goes to school, she is an ordinary kid...."she's fine!"

so.... here's the question of the day!  I started thinking about my first impression of others and wondered....."How do  we perceive people?" When does that innocence end? When do we start, not only noticing other peoples differences, but judging them for them!. When do we become afraid to sit next to somebody in pain and ask "what happened?" instead of trying to avoid eye contact.  When did we start worrying more about the opinion of strangers and our exterior than what's inside. And why do the sounding off of an ignorant few hold more power over us then the positive voices and  validation from those who love us and know what we have to offer this world!

Next time we see somebody that's different from us I hope we remember this! I hope we  see what we did as kids. Other people that our just like us with cool stories and a unique twist on life!!
He's right, she is fine! She is a happy healthy 6 year old enjoying life! She apparently lived through something horrible and is still smiling. She has already had to learn to rise above adversity, how to make the best of a situation. She probably has an appreciation for her life at 6 that most of us will never have. She knows the gift she was given just by being here. Thanks Von for the reminder!